Saturday, May 14, 2011

Nicki Minaj dishes about Britney Spears at AT&T, Samsung event.

Best Friend Reunion May 14th,2011

We all have a best friend. That one person that we run to for advice, whom we go to when we want to act stupid, just hang out and be ourselves. They are that person that knows you better than you know yourself, my best friend not only laughs with me (at me sometimes) but she yells at me, and sets me straight whenever  I do whatever it is I'm not suppose to. She's been with me since our sophomore year in high school, that's...6 years! Her and I have gone through hell and back together. And everytime we go through a tough situation, she only proves to be even better than  know she is! Lately though, we haven't been able to hang out like we used to in high school. She's a full time student and I'm a full time worker, trying to juggle work, school, and a few other things. Our lives have changed, way beyong our power, and we remain friends. Today we made it a mission to hang out after not seeing each other in 3 months. I can't remember having more fun then I did today. I laughed until my stomach literally hurt, and spoke about everything from our personal lives to the couple sitting across from us at the bar. We also took some time to go and watch "BRIDESMAIDS" which was fucking HILARIOUS! GO WATCH IT! I love my best friend, she knows it and i must tell her again! I love hanging out with you, i love talking to you, i love being around you babe! Can't wait to hng out with you again!
XOXO K. Regina :-)


SATURDAY - I mean check out the shoes!!!!!

Friday, May 13, 2011

How Important Is Sexual Harrassment To You?

Sexual harassment, is intimidation, bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors. In some contexts or circumstances, sexual harassment may be illegal. It includes a range of behavior from seemingly mild transgressions and annoyances to actual sexual abuse or sexual assault. Sexual harassment is a form of illegal employment discrimination in many countries, and is a form of abuse (sexual and psychological) and bullying. For many businesses, preventing sexual harassment, and defending employees from sexual harassment charges, have become key goals of legal decision-making.
Sexual harassments can occur in a variety of circumstances. Often, but not always, the harasser is in a position of power or authority over the victim (due to differences in age, or social, political, educational or employment relationships). [wikipedia]
Many times we turn a blind eye to certain situations for various reasons: we don't care enough to get involved, we don't know the person(s), we figure "if i don't say anything i won't be a snitch, get into any trouble myself". We don't know what is like to be a tough spot until  it happens to us. What if that was you? What if you were being forced to do something against your will and no one was around to help you, even worst, people ARE around and they all just walk away...? Bet you'll regret all the times you've turned a blind eye, or acted like you didn't see anything.
The harasser can be anyone, such as a client, a co-worker, a parent or legal guardian, a teacher or professor, a student, a friend, or a stranger. The victim does not have to be the person directly harassed but can be anyone who finds the behavior offensive and is affected by it. Adverse affects on the target are common: The victim can be any gender. The harasser can be any gender. The harasser does not have to be of the opposite sex. The harasser may be completely unaware that his or her behavior is offensive or constitutes sexual harassment or may be completely unaware that his or her actions could be unlawful.
*****Misunderstanding: It can result from a situation where one thinks he/she is making themselves clear, but is not understood the way they intended. The misunderstanding can either be reasonable or unreasonable. An example of unreasonable is when a man holds a certain stereotypical view of a woman such that he did not understand the woman’s explicit message to stop.(Heyman, 1994).
One of the difficulties in understanding sexual harassment is that it involves a range of behavior, and is often difficult for the recipient to describe to themselves, and to others, exactly what they are experiencing. Moreover, behavior and motives vary between individual harassers.[wikipedia]
How can you ever understand someone that has been a victim of sexual harassment, when you haven't experienced it yourself? And what do we do? How do we know when someone is sexually harrassing someone esle, or being harassed?

Types of Harassers: Public harassers are flagrant in their seductive or sexist attitudes towards colleagues, subordinates, students, etc.
Private harassers carefully cultivate a restrained and respectable image on the surface, but when alone with their target, their demeanor changes.
Langelan describes three different classes of harassers:

Predatory harasser who gets sexual thrills from humiliating others. This harasser may become involved in sexual extortion, and may frequently harass just to see how targets respond. Those who don't resist may even become targets for rape.

Dominance harasser: the most common type, who engages in harassing behaviour as an ego boost.
strategic or **territorial harassers who seek to maintain privilege in jobs or physical locations, for example a man's harassing female employees in a predominantly male occupation.
There is often more than one type of harassing behavior present, so a single harasser may fit more than one category. These are brief summations of each type.[wiki]
Power-player - Legally termed "quid pro quo" harassment, these harassers insist on sexual favors in exchange for benefits they can dispense because of their positions in hierarchies: getting or keeping a job, favorable grades, recommendations, credentials, projects, promotion, orders, and other types of opportunities.
Mother/Father Figure (a.k.a. The Counselor-Helper) - These harassers will try to create mentor-like relationships with their targets, all the while masking their sexual intentions with pretenses towards personal, professional, or academic attention.
One-of-the-Gang - Harassment occurs when groups of men or women embarrass others with lewd comments, physical evaluations, or other unwanted sexual attention. Harassers may act individually in order to belong or impress the others, or groups may gang up on a particular target.
Serial Harasser - Harassers of this type carefully build up an image so that people would find it hard to believe they would do anyone any harm. They plan their approaches carefully, and strike in private so that it is their word against that of their victims.
Groper - Whenever the opportunity presents itself, these harassers' eyes and hands begin to wander, engaging in unwanted physical contact that may start innocuous but lead to worse.
Opportunist - Opportunist use physical settings and circumstances, or infrequently occurring opportunities, to mask premeditated or intentional sexual behavior towards targets. This will often involve changing the environment in order to minimize inhibitory effects of the workplace or school or taking advantage of physical tasks to 'accidentally' grope a target.
Bully - In this case, a harasser uses physical threats to frighten and separate two would be lovers who willfully are engaging with each other. The intent of the harasser can be due to a range of reasons such as jealousy, racism, or their own hidden sexual agendas. Normally the harasser attempts to physically separate the two using their size or threats of physical violence and remains until they are satisfied by the separation or can pursue their own sexual agenda against one of the victims.
Confidante - Harassers of this type approach subordinates, or students, as equals or friends, sharing about their own life experiences and difficulties, sharing stories to win admiration and sympathy, and inviting subordinates to share theirs so as to make them feel valued and trusted. Soon these relationships move into an intimate domain.
Situational Harasser - Harassing behavior begins when the perpetrator endures a traumatic event (psychological), or begins to experience very stressful life situations, such as psychological or medical problems, marital problems, or divorce. The harassment will usually stop if the situation changes or the pressures are removed.
Pest - This is the stereotypical "won't take 'no' for an answer" harasser who persists in hounding a target for attention and dates even after persistent rejections. This behavior is usually misguided, with no malicious intent.
Great Gallant - This mostly verbal harassment involves excessive compliments and personal comments that focus on appearance and gender, and are out of place or embarrassing to the recipient. Such comments are sometimes accompanied by leering looks.
Intellectual Seducer - Most often found in educational settings, these harassers will try to use their knowledge and skills as an avenue to gain access to students, or information about students, for sexual purposes. They may require students participate in exercises or "studies" that reveal information about their sexual experiences, preferences, and habits.
Incompetent - These are socially inept individuals who desire the attentions of their targets, who do not reciprocate these feelings. They may display a sense of entitlement, believing their targets should feel flattered by their attentions. When rejected, this type of harasser may use bullying methods as a form of revenge.
Stalking - Persistent watching, following, contacting or observing of an individual, sometimes motivated by what the stalker believes to be love, or by sexual obsession, or by anger and hostility.
Unintentional - Acts or comments of a sexual nature, not intended to harass, can constitute sexual harassment if another person feels uncomfortable with such subjects.
                                            Retaliation and backlash
Retaliation and backlash against a victim are very common, particularly a complainant. Victims who speak out against sexual harassment are often labeled troublemakers who are on their own power trips, or who are looking for attention. Similar to cases of rape or sexual assault, the victim often becomes the accused, with their appearance, private life, and character likely to fall under intrusive scrutiny and attack.[4] They risk hostility and isolation from colleagues, supervisors, teachers, fellow students, and even friends. They may become the targets of mobbing or relational aggression.[wiki]
Word From The Blogger: This isn't something that should be taken lightly. Sexual harassment is an offense. Not only is it the act of unwelcome actions, and comments as well as remarks and looks, but we never know how our actions affect others. Someone can be walking down the street and look perfectly normal, but what do we know? Maybe that person is dying inside, drowing in a pool of pain  and sorrow, feeling dispair and emptiness. There's a new law: "If you SEE something, SAY something" this doesn't only implicate bullying, but sexual harassment and anything else for that matter. As a human being why wouldn't you want to help someone else? I feel so strongly about this for various reasons from friends and family who have gone through this painful ordeal to just a personal "mission". I'm determined to be LOUD about this! If you can comment, please do, if not spread the word! Sometimes victims from S.H are too afraid to say anything, they feel somehow responsible for whats happened to them or they simply feel too embarrased to talk about this with anyone else. Help, you never know when (GOD forbid) is you in that spot. Say something, lend a shoulder, reach out! No one should be forced into anything they are not in agreement with. And NO MEANS NO!!! Find yourself in a situation similar to this, but not to the point of an assault yet, what are you waiting for? SPEAK UP! REACH OUT! TELL SOMEONE! Take care of yourselves, becareful and help others always!
                 XOXOXO K.Regina


So last night blogger wanna act all stupid and shit and i wasnt able to deliver the topic i wanted to. So, here's today's outfit Stay tuned for the next post!

Wednesday, May 11, 2011


the shoes that went with it!

Busy As a Bee...writing some lyrics!

Sorry that I haven't been blogging today! I spent my whole day working, and writing a couple of songs. One is titled " Do You Think Im Strange" got the name from the beat itself LOL, is a song I'm planning on doing with my homeboy! The other song I wrote was "Jesy" in the name of my cousin whose birthday is tom...actually today! As soon as I get done with the songs I will post them up!
XOXO Karellys-Regina  =)

Nicki Minaj To Perform during Good Morning America Summer Concert Series 2011

Nicki Minaj To Perform during Good Morning America Summer Concert Series 2011

Monday, May 9, 2011

Stand up 4 Yoself & Stop Pleasing Others!

Why is everyone so obssesed with fitting in with everyone else? Why are people walking around trying to be someone they're not? The Lord created each and everyone of us with different talents, skills, personalities and tastes. That's why we are "individuals" because we each have our own way of living, seeing things, different opinions, etc. Women walk around dressed as sluts, when first of all, that shit ain't cute honey. Second, we can clearly see by the way you walk and the look in your face that this isn't you, so why dress like this? Because everyone else does? So're a follower. People claim themselves to be REAL and say that they do what they want and what feels right for them...LIES! We all need to start by taking a good, long look in the mirror and not only define but discover who is that looking back at us. If you're a young female that likes to wear ties, buttoned-up shirts while everyone else wears dresses, girl you better get out there and rock them ties! Be you. If you're a boy that listens to NICKI MINAJ while all of the other guys listen to Jay-Z, well dude start blasting "Moment 4 Life" Be you. I hate when someone says " I love this book!" and someone else responds,"You do? You whack ass hell" Why? because they read something you don't? or is it because you can't read? LOL. Diversity, variety, creativity, individualism, and uniqueness are all crucial variables in our society. I love being different. It simply doesn't face me. I've learned that folks will always talk about you. If you're a millionaire, that runs an empire, and you're living your dream, folks will talk about that, " I bet you he did some illegal things to get there", now another scenario. You're dirt-poor, you live on your week-to-week pay check and you can barely make ends meet, "see, she should've got herself together a long time ago, now she a failure." Moral of the story..? You can't please everyone. My favorite Nicki Minaj quote is this:" I'll never be able to please everyone, I've come to terms with that. And that in itself has been my greatest lesson to date"...This is why I love her! Have you seen her style? Unusual, yes, but is her style. I have half of my head shaved, I have piercings, tattoos, I dress in vibrant colors, I love playing dress up and I barely follow the dress code. I'm ME! I'm Karellys. I made up an alter ego "REGINA" because she's another side of me. I feel  that I  have enough creativity, personality, imagination and inspiration for 2 people rather than just Karellys, so there's Karellys and Regina. People can say what they want, look all they want, but at the end of the day I'm real to me, I keep it real with everyone else and people will always know who I am. I wear make-up but I don't hide behind it. I love clothes and dressing up but my personality has a lot more layers, and there's more to me than meets the eye. Stop being everyone else's idea of who you should be, and start being who YOU want to be! Stand up for yourself and for what you believe in!!!! Make whacky faces if you feel like it and wear neon shoes if ya need to, I mean I do!
                                                    XOXO, Karellys-Regina! =)

Please sign! Help veto the "KILL THE GAYS" bill in Uganda!

Dear Friend,
I just signed a petition demanding that Ugandan President Musevini veto the "Kill The Gays" bill should it be passed in Parliament.
We just learned the “kill the gays” bill - a death sentence for LGBT people in Uganda - could come up for a vote in the next 48 hours if we don’t act now.
Conservative leaders are trying hard to push the bill forward before the millions like us who oppose it have a chance to speak out.  If we can create a massive international outcry, theres a chance to stop this bill from becoming law.
This hateful bill appears to be a political diversion, a way to distract from the legitimate grievances of pro-democracy activists, who have been beaten, teargassed, jailed, and even killed in recent weeks.
There are only days left to make sure your voice is heard.  Will you join me in demanding the Ugandan President Musevini veto the "Kill The Gays" bill should it be passed in Parliament?  Sign and share this urgent petition:

I Have My Own Line Of Jewelry NOW! LOOK!!! #2

More bracelets!

I Have My Own Line Of Jewelry NOW! LOOK!!!

Times are hard, we all need money and coming up with ideas to make some extra money is a MUST! (As long as is legal!) LOL. A couple of months ago my roommate and I started to think: " What can we do to make extra money? Floral arrangements? No. Baking cakes and cupcakes and deliver them? No. So, how about jewelry? YES! We both love bracelets, rings, earrings, necklaces! So, Here It Is! Surprisingly though we've made a good profit! We're thinking of a name for the line!

My Nails!



Sunday: Mother's Day!


Sunday, May 8, 2011

What Does My Mother Mean To Me...?

What does my mother mean to me? My mother means everything to me. Just the fact that she carried me in her stomach for 9 months is enough for me to love her! Since October 13th, 1989 she has put up with me, yeah i said put up because i'm not easy to deal with. My mother is that person that i can argue with, fight with, disagree on so many things with, but at the end of the day i can still walk up to her, kiss her and she'll give me the warmest, tighest and most welcoming embrace.  My mother isn't perfect, in fact she's far from that, but she's perfect to me. She's a woman that has been able to raise 3 children on her own, through thick and thin, my mother has been there for me, and my brothers. My mother accepts me, she doesn't agree with half of the things i do, but she never judges my decisions and always stands behind me to catch me if i fall. Life takes us down certain paths that make us want to give up and at times turn our backs on our family and friends. I've done that, i've felt that no one was listening to me, that no one saw me, but in all actuality my mom was there. She saw me struggling and knew i was hurting, i just didn't like what i was hearing from her and therefore i felt alone, and ignored. For every mistake that i have ever made, my mother has not only forgiven me for each one but she's pushed me beyond my limit to right my wrongs and stay on the right path. I love my mother. I love her further more than i can express or say. She's everything for me and to me. I don't tell her enough, i really don't, maybe because at times i'm more caught up with other things and i allow myself to be busy with everything and everyone else instead of spending time with her, telling her that i love her, that i'm forever thankful for her sacrifices and all the hard work she's put in to raise me and my brothers. To everyone whose mom is close by, love her, hug her, kiss her, cry with her, laugh with her and never stop. Those of you whose moms are away, call her, text her or write to her. Mother's day shouldn't be the only day that we express ourselves to our mothers. Mom, I love you, I need you to always, always know that and never forget it. I don't have the luxury of living with my mother and is not often that I see her, but there isn't a day and GOD is my witness, that I stop thinking about my mother. To wrap it up, Friday night I went to a funeral, a close family friend lost her mother and i can only imagine the deep sorrow and immense pain she must be in not only today but the rest of her life. I would die if my mother were to be taken away from me. Love your mom, accept her with her faults and flaws because is those same flaws that make her that much more beautiful!!! HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!
                                             XOXOX Karellys =)